Friday, March 25, 2005

看电影--离婚

昨天跟老公吃晚饭的时候,电视上在放《洛基3》,他兴致很足的想看下去,我高声反对,从小就因为陪老爸看这些电影,到现在都对这种暴力片颇有微词。

所以,我们换上DVD,看前些天借回来的《Le Divorce》(法语:离婚)。

说实话呢,写这篇,实在是本着好片要大力推荐,坏片要点名批评的道理,不能浪费其他大伙的时间。
总体而言,我觉得,这是一部烂片。谢谢观赏。

我们还是说一点为什么吧。

首先,是我对电影的品味,有时候很成问题。很喜欢那种很girly的封面,这个是导致我当初从图书馆借这本小说原著回来看的最大理由。因为内容拖沓冗长,大量无意义的女主角独白,和不知所谓的环境描写,让我终于在一半之后,彻底放弃,把原书放归大海。

然后,是被封面上的美女所诱惑,觉得不会差太远。

具体地说来,故事是,一对美国姐妹,姐姐嫁给了一个风度翩翩的法国男人,在巴黎住,要生第二孩子的时候,妹妹正好失业,就去法国帮忙看孩子。刚刚到,就发现姐夫要和姐姐离婚。后来,自然是姐姐离姐姐的婚,她享受她的浪漫生活,和年轻的法国男孩上床,同时作一个政治小名人的情妇,收贵重的礼物,以为这就是法国。后来,姐夫被人干掉了,他们家一幅阁楼上的画被认定是名人作品,买了个成百上千万,皆大欢喜,每个人都寻找到了“幸福”。

可怜这部片子,本来可以排成风光片吧,连个塞纳河的特写都没有;本来可以拍成艺术片吧,所有的镜头都剪得支离破碎,看完了,头晕;本来可以拍成文化差异对比的剧情片吧,连几个主角的背景都没有介绍清楚;本来可以拍成情色片吧,身材还不错的同志们总是窝在脏兮兮的被子里面,好像时差没有倒过来的样子;本来可以拍成悬念片吧,最后所有的人物都像是一张纸片,简单的连猜都提不起兴趣。

嗯,我好像说得挺过分得了,那就这样吧,大家爱看看,也能去试试。

Wednesday, March 23, 2005

老友伊言

本来是想把她的生日感言写在属于Next door的博克上面的,因为她们在国内的朋友,根本都不爱连上来。可惜,就在今天,那个克站,又翘掉了,就先记在这里,改日再转过去吧。

伊言是我初中的朋友,我们四人帮,还有萝衣和旧日的卡洛琳(不知道这姑娘怎么现在迷上麦兜了,成天都要大包整多两笼),旧些年,我也叫布伦黛的多。

因为都是少读一年小学(只读了四年),那初中三年,一起做梦作了三年。我和伊言都是数学白
痴。由此说来,萝衣比我们幸福太多,她不管怎么样,成绩都不会掉出前三名(天啊,剩下我们三个可是常年在二十几名排排座的),要知道,我们班一共才三十个人!!

所幸,我和伊言都非常非常的偏科,我们都偏语文偏得已经不知道初中还学习物理和化学。

最记得当年的化学老师,个子小小,但是,留着郭富城同学的偏分!啊,也亏我们虽然《窗外》看得的,却还没有偷偷得给他递纸条。不过,常常出去瞎逛的时候,遇见他,每次都兴奋不已,最得意是,当年我不知道在哪里买到一个狂搞笑得的手掌大小的公仔,居然也是那样的分头~~后来再也找不见了,但是,当初还是很觉得他们有相似之处的。不过,怎么都记不起来那个老师叫什么名字了(你们有没有谁记得?)

伊言的文字非常有灵性,每每都能牵动我们一根共通又敏感的神经。到今天,我都还记的《小丑作家》坐在自己房间里面那个摇椅上,看着天花板,用小丑的笔名一片又一片的寄出稿件,却没有一次被采用。那个时候,我们都才只有十一二岁!伊言就打动我们,让我们这些快乐的小丑,激动兴奋。

后来这十年,我们各自追寻自己的方向(如果我的方向算方向的话),剩下伊言开始专业的作文字,萝衣开始选择心之所爱的写作,卡洛琳还是最热心专业的读者,而我只能在博克上面搬弄文字的时候,不禁莞尔。

21号是伊言的生日,我没有能够及时祝贺,仅此小文,回忆并做献礼。

Tuesday, March 22, 2005

这些日子,我都在干嘛……

今天终于忙完了我的prospectus,老实讲,我真的不知道中文意思是什么。但是,对比来讲,就是国内的开题报告。
不管我想还是不想,按照我导师的风格,明年的这个时候,我就应该在市场上寻找一份工作了。老公刚刚安定下来(虽然,难过的说,不是在我身边),我又要毕业。我们两个人,开始牵扯线绳的两端。虽然,VV似乎在慢慢的展示结婚后的单身生活充满美丽和挑战。看,她学会了做好吃的菜,能够日日夜夜的看电影,还能冲破常规的三年之后去锻炼身体,一夜之间写好三页的复杂报告。看来,我该少一些担忧(主要是忧心我自己),多一些期盼了。

言归正题,这些日子,我就每天写报告,准备报告,因为这个实在是资格考试的一个部分,我这种Nerd也实在是放不下。其实,等过了今天,我才知道,原来,如果我当初没有太认真,我还是可以通过的。

答辩委员会的同志们走进来的那一分钟,每个人脸上带者的笑容,就像是来参加一个友情派对,所有的问题,都友好的在放水,最后的讨论,简直就是亲情大支持,我的每个想法,大家都很支持,还觉得很合理。
我就想不通了,为什么,这三年,我就没有一篇paper可以灌水呢?

不管怎么说了,这将近一个月,我已经算是很努力了。虽然,在老公眼里看来,我还不够,不过,我也知道,离毕业还有一年,大家该还有耐性等我越来越乖吧。

不过,最可爱的是父母,上场之前给他们打个电话,说我紧张的厉害,爸爸已经在电话那头睡着了,妈妈一直说,还没有见到我被什么事情难倒过,哎,都怪我平时报喜不报忧,他们大概已经习惯了。直到今天晚上再打电话,说通过了,那两位同志居然一点都不兴奋,说,我们从来都没有怀疑过啊。怎么,永远都是别人信心比我足。

恩,好了,这些天总结完了,可以翻开新的一页了。

Monday, March 14, 2005

饭后甜点

那天我们和房东老太太坐下来喝咖啡聊天,她随口问我们,中国的饭后甜点是什么,我们竟然都愣了,一下子想不出答案是什么。我说是糖水,在香港基本上每次吃完饭后,都会上这个。红豆沙,杏仁露,椰汁西米……
oMo说,不是。他也没有说出来什么是。

今天中午吃午饭的时候,像平时一样,在网上到处乱逛。
看到介绍郑渊洁。
http://www.zhyj.com/zhyj/zhyj.htm

虽然他讨论到人生理想可以使淘粪工这件事情(当初他一定在什么其它文章中提及过,我有印象的),
越往后看,越觉得以前没看这家伙那么耍贫的。不过,怎么说,今天中午,算是拿他的网站,作了饭后甜品。

其实,我也只有这个点儿,才有时间精力写点东西。

啊呀,再做以下中国人饭后甜点的调查吧?

Friday, March 04, 2005

BookMark the Links

http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes3.asp

http://keirsey.com/personality/nfep.html

http://typelogic.com/enfp.html

个性测试

和职业测试息息相关的。

Your Type is
ENFP
Extroverted Intuitive Feeling Perceiving
Strength of the preferences %
33 38 12 22

Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving
by Marina Margaret Heiss

Profile: ENFP
Revision: 3.0
Date of Revision: 25 Feb 2005

[The following comes partially from the archetype, but mostly from my own dealings with ENFPs.]

General: ENFPs are both "idea"-people and "people"-people, who see everyone and everything as part of an often bizarre cosmic whole. They want to both help (at least, their own definition of "help") and be liked and admired by other people, on bo th an individual and a humanitarian level. They are interested in new ideas on principle, but ultimately discard most of them for one reason or another.

Social/Personal Relationships: ENFPs have a great deal of zany charm, which can ingratiate them to the more stodgy types in spite of their unconventionality. They are outgoing, fun, and genuinely like people. As SOs/mates they are warm, affectionate (l ots of PDA), and disconcertingly spontaneous. However, attention span in relationships can be short; ENFPs are easily intrigued and distracted by new friends and acquaintances, forgetting about the older ones for long stretches at a time. Less mature ENFPs may need to feel they are the center of attention all the time, to reassure them that everyone thinks they're a wonderful and fascinating person.

ENFPs often have strong, if unconvential, convictions on various issues related to their Cosmic View. They usually try to use their social skills and contacts to persuade people gently of the rightness of these views; his sometimes results in their negle cting their nearest and dearest while flitting around trying to save the world.
Work Environment: ENFPs are pleasant, easygoing, and usually fun to work with. They come up with great ideas, and are a major asset in brainstorming sessions. Followthrough tends to be a problem, however; they tend to get bored quickly, especially if a newer, more interesting project comes along. They also tend to be procrastinators, both about meeting hard deadlines and about performing any small, uninteresting tasks that they've been assigned. ENFPs are at their most useful when working in a group w ith a J or two to take up the slack.

ENFPs hate bureaucracy, both in principle and in practice; they will always make a point of launching one of their crusades against some aspect of it.
Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving

by Joe Butt

ENFPs are friendly folks. Most are really enjoyable people. Some of the most soft-hearted people are ENFPs.

ENFPs have what some call a "silly switch." They can be intellectual, serious, all business for a while, but whenever they get the chance, they flip that switch and become CAPTAIN WILDCHILD, the scourge of the swimming pool, ticklers par excellence. Som etimes they may even appear intoxicated when the "switch" is flipped.

One study has shown that ENFPs are significantly overrepresented in psychodrama. Most have a natural propensity for role-playing and acting.

ENFPs like to tell funny stories, especially about their friends. This penchant may be why many are attracted to journalism. I kid one of my ENFP friends that if I want the sixth fleet to know something, I'll just tell him.

ENFPs are global learners. Close enough is satisfactory to the ENFP, which may unnerve more precise thinking types, especially with such things as piano practice ("three quarter notes or four ... what's the difference?") Amazingly, some ENFPs are adept at exacting disciplines such as mathematics.

Friends are what life is about to ENFPs, moreso even than the other NFs. They hold up their end of the relationship, sometimes being victimized by less caring individuals. ENFPs are energized by being around people. Some have real difficulty being alone , especially on a regular basis.

One ENFP colleague, a social worker, had such tremendous interpersonal skills that she put her interviewers at ease during her own job interview. She had the ability to make strangers feel like old friends.

ENFPs sometimes can be blindsided by their secondary Feeling function. Hasty decisions based on deeply felt values may boil over with unpredictable results. More than one ENFP has abruptly quit a job in such a moment.

Functional Analysis:
Extraverted iNtuition

The physical world, both geos and kosmos, is the ENFP's primary source of information. Rather than sensing things as they are, dominant intuition is sensitive to things as they might be. These extraverted intuitives are most adept with patterns and connections. Their natural inclination is toward relationships, especially among people or living things.

Intuition leans heavily on feeling for meaning and focus. Its best patterns reflect the interesting points of people, giving rise to caricatures of manner, speech and expression.
Introverted Feeling

Auxiliary feeling is nonverbally implied more often than it is openly expressed. When expressed, this logic has an aura of romance and purity that may seem out of place in this flawed, imperfect world. In its own defense, feeling judgement frequently and fleetly gives way to humor. ENFPs who publicize their feelings too often may put off some of the crowd of friends they naturally attract.
Extraverted Thinking

Thinking, the process which runs to impersonal conclusions, holds the extraverted tertiary position. Used on an occasional basis, ENFPs may benefit greatly from this ability. Less mature and lacking the polish of higher order functions, Thinking is not well suited to be used as a prominent function. As with other FP types, the ENFP unwary of Thinking's limitations may find themselves most positively mistaken.
Introverted Sensing

Sensing, the least discernible ENFP function, resides in the inner world where reality is reduced to symbols and icons--ideas representing essences of external realities. Under the influence of the ever-present intuition, the ENFP's sensory perceptions are in danger of being replaced by hypothetical data consistent with pattern and paradigm. When it is protected and nourished, introverted sensing provides information about the fixed. From such firm anchoring ENFPs are best equipped to launch into thousands of plausibilities and curiosities yet to be imagined.

Perhaps the combination of introverted Feeling and childlike introverted Sensing is responsible for the silent pull of ENFPs to the wishes of parents, authority figures and friends. Or perhaps it's the predominance of indecisive intuition in combination with the ambiguity of secondary Fi and tertiary Te that induces these kind souls to capitulate even life-affecting decisions. Whatever the dynamic, ENFPs are strongly influenced by the opinions of their friends.
Famous ENFPs:

Franz Joseph Haydn, composer Samuel Clemens (Mark Twain)
Will Rogers, humorist
Buster Keaton
Theodor "Dr." Seuss Geisel, children's author (The Cat in the Hat)
Mickey Rooney, actor
James Dobson, "Focus on the Family"
Andy Rooney, television news commentator
Carol Burnett, comedian
Paul Harvey, radio announcer
Elizabeth Montgomery, actor (Bewitched)
Bill Cosby, comedian, actor (Ghost Dad)
Dom Delouise, actor
Dave Thomas, owner of Wendy's hamburger chain
Lewis Grizzard, newspaper columnist
I. King Jordan, president of Gallaudet University
Martin Short, actor-comedian
Meg Ryan, actor (When Harry Met Sally)
Robin Williams, actor, comedian (Dead Poet's Society, Mrs. Doubtfire)
Sandra Bullock, actor (Speed, While You Were Sleeping)
Robert Downey (Heart and Souls)
Alicia Silverstone (Clueless)
Sinbad
Andy Kaufman

Fictional:
Dr. Doug Ross (ER)
Balkie (Perfect Strangers)
Ariel (The Little Mermaid)
The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air
Steve Irkle

The Champion Idealists are abstract in thought and speech, cooperative in accomplishing their aims, and informative and extraverted when relating with others. For Champions, nothing occurs which does not have some deep ethical significance, and this, coupled with their uncanny sense of the motivations of others, gives them a talent for seeing life as an exciting drama, pregnant with possibilities for both good and evil. This type is found in only about 3 percent of the general population, but they have great influence because of their extraordinary impact on others. Champions are inclined to go everywhere and look into everything that has to do with the advance of good and the retreat of evil in the world. They can't bear to miss out on what is going on around them; they must experience, first hand, all the significant social events that affect our lives. And then they are eager to relate the stories they've uncovered, hoping to disclose the "truth" of people and issues, and to advocate causes. This strong drive to unveil current events can make them tireless in conversing with others, like fountains that bubble and splash, spilling over their own words to get it all out.

Champions consider intense emotional experiences as being vital to a full life, although they can never quite shake the feeling that a part of themselves is split off, uninvolved in the experience. Thus, while they strive for emotional congruency, they often see themselves in some danger of losing touch with their real feelings, which Champions possess in a wide range and variety. In the same vein, Champions strive toward a kind of spontaneous personal authenticity, and this intention always to "be themselves" is usually communicated nonverbally to others, who find it quite attractive. All too often, however, Champions fall short in their efforts to be authentic, and they tend to heap coals of fire on themselves, berating themselves for the slightest self-conscious role-playing.

Great careers for ENFPs


Here are just a few popular and often satisfying careers for people whose Personality Type is ENFP.

* Advertising account executive
* Career / outplacement counselor
* Management consultant
* Developer of educational software
* Actor
* Journalist / magazine reporter
* Graphics designer
* Art director
* Copy writer
* Corporate team trainer
* Residential housing director
* Psychologist
* Inventor
* Human resources profession
* Child welfare counselor